Are you a man? Do you know a man?
If you answered yes to either or both of these questions, I suggest taking a gander at this puppy here. It’s a book called Men and Feminism: Seal Studies, by Shira Tarrant and Seal Press. It debunks myths about feminism, talks about privilege, gender roles, male involvement in the feminist movement, and is a great overall primer for men and feminism!
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Who the word ‘faggot’ upsets:
- Straight white girls.
You know what, you’re right. As a straight white girl, I can tell you that the word “faggot” upsets me. It does. It upsets me a lot.
You want to know why?
Because last year I almost lost a friend…
I believe what you meant to say was “White cisfemales who identify as straight occupy a position of privilege where they can express outrage over the use of a derogatory slur without fear of negative sanction. And because some white, straight cisfemales know this, they tend to be extra vocal about the use of that particular derogatory word, in the hopes of creating a safer, more positive environment for those who may also be offended, but do not feel comfortable or are otherwise unable to voice their discomfort.”
You’re only HEARING straight, white female outrage because that is the only outrage you’re allowing to reach you.
Reblogging again for commentary!
My translation:
(Your cock) Doesn’t get any bigger because you beat up your wife, or any smaller because you do the dishes.
I actually prefer small breasts” only reinforces the grand tradition of women’s bodies as objects to be presented for judgment and rated on a scale from Hot to Fugly.
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| — | Feministe author Caperton, on why supposedly-comforting phrases like “I prefer small boobs” don’t really help. Vitally important to remember, especially for allies and those who want to become allies. (via Sara Langhinrichs) |
[Images: Top image is a chalking on brick of the “all” meme. it reads, “Support ALL the choices!” The first image in the second row is a chalking of the “me gusta” meme that reads, “Reproductive Justice. Me gusta.” The second image in the second row is the “we got a badass over here” meme, that just says “Watch out!” The first image in the third row says “End the War on Women.” The second image in the third row says, “Queers 4 Reproductive Justice.” And the last image of the set says, “Abortion is not shameful.”]
So the anti-choice group, the center for bioethical reform was on campus today, teaming up with our resident anti-choice group, spiders for life. They had their giant, triggering, inaccurate, shaming photos.You can see them here [Trigger warning for abortion, medical waste]. So naturally all the concerned activists on campus formed an ad-hoc coalition to chalk the entire forum where the anti-choice display would be (More pictures coming later). Here are a few of the finest. I thought you all would enjoy. We also stood in the forum all day, talking with people, handing out ribbons for students to show their support for reproductive justice, and of course, FREE CONDOMS.
and this is why i went to/work at a school with a massive liberal bias
Big-Ass List of Book Suggestions!
Ok, I have written several posts about books suggestions, some for new feminists, some for specific areas of interest, some for men specifically… if you want those lists in particular, they are easily searchable at my actual blog page (not the tumblr dashboard).
However, I still have like ten questions in my inbox asking for reading suggestions, I thought it would be good to have one big resource list of everything in one spot - Men and feminism, sexuality, gender, trans issues, sex work, feminist philosophy and ideology, women of color, lbgt issues, beauty standards, body image/acceptance, eating disorder, and anything else under the sun that you think could be useful to someone, anyone.
I’ll start it off by listing some of the feminist staples:
- Sister Citizen, By: Melissa Harris-Perry
- Female Chauvinist Pigs:Women and the Rise of Raunch Culture, By: Ariel Levy
- The Rise of Enlightened Sexism, By: Susan J. Douglass
- Cunt, By: Inga Muscio
- Men and Feminism, By: Shira Tarrant
- Full Frontal Feminism, By: Jessica Valenti
- The Whipping Girl, By: Julie Serano
- Yes Means yes!: Visions of Female Sexual Power in a World Without Rape, By: Jaclyn Friedman and Jessica Valenti
- The Beauty Myth, By: Naomi Wolf
- The Purity Myth, By: Jessica Valenti
- What you Really Really Want: The Smart Girl’s Shame-Free Guide to Sex and Safety, By: Jaclyn Friedman
- Feminism is For Everybody: Passionate Politics, By: bell hooks
- He’s a Stud, She’s a Slut and 49 Other Double Standards Every Woman Should Know, By: Jessica Valenti
- Teaching to Transgress: Educations as the Practice of Freedom, By: bell hooks
- Temporarily Yours: Intimacy, Authenticity, and the Commerce of Sex, By: Elizabeth Bernstein
- Sex at Dawn The Pre-Historic Origins of Modern Sexuality, By: Christopher Ryan
It does not matter how obscure the book or topic is, if you think is relevant, I’d love for you to add it to this list. It also doesn’t matter if you think most people have read it, because chances are, not every body has. We’ve got a lot of people here, with varied interested, coming from all over, so a diverse list is what we are going for here.
What books do you want to add to this list?
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anon added: I’d add How To Be A Woman by Caitlin Moran on there. It may not be academic but it’s a fantastic introduction to “everyday” feminism for both men and women, and is hilarious in the process. Great read.
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Great! The list is inclusive of everything. You can suggest a great essay, an academic paper, casual reading, primers, etcetera. Anything that you think would help to educate another, or that you think someone would appreciate you sharing! :-)
Consent IS:
I believe I’ve seen a comprehensive description of consent once before. Figured I’d contribute as it’s a subject that bears repeating.
Consent is:
- Non-coercive: If you’re cojoling, threatening or otherwise trying to “convince” someone to engage in a sexual act with you, you are breaking consent. If you asked 16 times and got 15 No’s and 1 Yes, you still did not adequately obtain consent. Also, you’re a weak individual.
- Not fixed: What I mean by this is you shouldn’t take for granted that after asking once for consent that you now have consent forever. It’s not like landing a gig as a Supreme Court judge. You don’t have consent for life. It should be continuously negotiated.
- Dynamic: Related to the above note, consent for one act does not necessitate consent for all acts. Consent is not an EZ Pass. It should be re-addressed constantly for different acts.
- Conscious: Yeah, I want to believe I don’t have to explain this one. Bad enough I had to list it. But ok, yes, an inebriated person cannot consent. There, you can’t say no one ever told you.
- Unambiguous/Explicit: Assume all of the following to mean “no.” — “Maybe,” “I’m not sure,” “Not yet,” “Kinda,” “Wait a minute,” …I could go on.
- Not contingent upon sexual interest nor sexual arousal: We know. Blue balls are a motherfucker. Still no excuse. Neither your NOR the expressed/implied interest of any potential partners is an invitation to any act. Also, neither your nor the (assumed) arousal of anyone you might want to have sex with is an invitation. Yes, someone might be aroused and still not want to fuck. Crazy times. I know.
- Not compensatory: Yeah, that dinner and a movie were nice. Still not an invitation to fuck. And if you thought it was, you’re a world class asshole.
- Not something that requires a qualifier: No one needs to explain why they are not granting you consent. No is enough.
